I was an eharmony member a few years ago, and now I'm back. I like the setup. I like that's it's not like some of the other sites where everyone is on display like canned goods at the supermarket. However, I am a little curious about exactly how the whole matching system works. I have been matched with women who I had very little in common with and who were very different from me in terms of personality. I'm not anti-social, not at all. But I'm an introvert, and I tend to be a little quiet and stand-offish. The last time I was on eharmony, I was matched with a girl who could literally talk non-stop for a half hour. During our coffee date, I think I got maybe three or four sentences into the conversation due to her talkativeness. Don't get me wrong, she was a nice girl. But I think someone like that should probably be with a guy who is a little more extroverted than I am.

One interesting thing I noticed was that I tended to get matched with a lot of law students. I can't tell you how many times I got a new match only to read her profile and find out that she was in law school. Maybe if I had gone to law school myself, I would have found the love of my life.

Also, I think eharmony needs to tweak their matching system. In my settings, I specifically said that I only wanted to be matched with girls within thirty miles of my home. I live in a metropolitan area, so this isn't unreasonable. However, I got matched with girls who were in Maryland, Illinois, and Kentucky. Don't get me wrong. I'm sure they are nice ladies, but if I'm in Ohio, and they're in those other states, then it's not going to happen. I have a freshly started career here, and I'm not interested in picking up and moving away for someone. Plus, since I specified that I didn't want any matches more than thirty miles away from me, then I shouldn't be getting matches from far away places. Eharmony, you need to address this.

All in all, eharmony isn't too much of a disappointment. I think some of the people are are angry because they got their hopes up too high. Even though they say it's different, EH isn't that much different from dating IRL. You still have to deal with rejection, flaky people, shallow people, etc. Online dating isn't going to allow you to literally purchase a compatible SO, even though it's easy to think that if you're new to online dating sites. Also, you're probably going to have to go through a few, if not several, matches before you find "the one."