Reviews of Match.com

I would give Match.Com a ZERO. I was charged without notification from Match. As they say YOU MUST MEET THEIR CRITERIA TO EARN THE FREE 6 MONTHS.

I MUST SAY, I DID NOT SEND OUT THE 5 EMAILS. THIS IS MY FAULT I GUESS. BUT THEY WILL HIT YOUR ACCOUNT FOR CHARGE OF $107. I HAVE HAD MEDICAL PROBLEMS WITHIN MY FAMILY THAT I HAVE HAD TO TAKE CARE OF, ONE BEING MY NEPHEW WITH A BRAIN TUMOR AND TRANSPORTING HIM TO THE VA OUT OF STATE FOR SURGERY, THEN BACK FOR COMPLICATIONS.

IF YOU WAIT ON NOTFICATION OF RENEWAL, YOU WILL NOT GET IT. YOU ALSO WILL NOT GET THE 6 MONTHS FREE, YOU WILL GET A CHARGE ON YOUR ACCOUNT.

I MADE A MISTAKE IN TRUSTING, I WILL LEARN SOMEDAY. ONE GOOD THING HAPPENED THIS MORNING, I HAVE BEEN TRYING TO GET HELP FOR MY NEWPHEW WHO IS DISABLED NOW FROM ALL THE MEDICAL AND I DID GET A CALL FROM SOMEONE THAT CAN HELP.

GOD WILL HANDLE THIS FOR ME.

I JUST WANT OTHERS TO BE AWARE, READ ALL THE PRINT, AND FLAG YOURSELF TO REMEMBER. BET YET, DON'T JOIN....

I WILL NEVER TRUST THESE SITES AGAIN, AND I WILL WARN ALL THAT I KNOW TO NOT TRUST ESPECIALLY MATCH.COM.

How shall I begin? I have been on match.com for about 2 weeks and am already disgruntled, aggravated etc. Now, understand that I am not disgruntled because the hordes of women seeking to date me have not materialized. Attraction is subjective and it is what it is. Furthemore, this is online dating. No, what has me disgruntled is how people (male and female) treat each other on here. And while other reviewers, have stated noone owes you a response to an email, it still is discourteous. For example, I emailed this lady on match. com and then asked if she wanted to continue speaking. She said yes and gave me her personal email, which btw, included her real name (thinks dark thoughts-joking :)). Since then, I emailed her twice-and guess what-no response. Look, I can handle rejection, but it is just plain rude and immature for her not to respond. I expected a 36 yr. old woman with 3 kids to act like a 36 yr. old woman with 3 kids and not a 22 yr. old woman with 3 kids.

When someone emails or winks at me, I always respond even if I am not interested. I say something positive and tell them "good luck with your search." And you know what, people appreciate that. Women genererally email me back thanking me. Now, I am not telling the rest of you cretins (for the uneducated- "french" for "idiot") what to do but before you decide not to answer an email think about how that person may feel. Simple acknowledgment can do wonders. Of course, there are exceptions. Such as you ladies who "claim" to get 100 emails a day. Oh, it must be such hard work.(rolls eyes)

Now, my review.

First, Match.com is a a losing proposition for the average male like myself. By average, I mean 5'11, 160-170 lbs., athletic but not a steroid -looking bastard and making between $50,000-$75,000.00. Also, average in looks. The problem with match.com is that you are solely judged by your "looks." Nothing else. So, if you have "game", gentlemen, it is effectively neutralized. You cannot talk your way to the promised land.

Second, the women on match.com are picky-especially, white, divorced and in their thirties. They have certain criteria and if you do not meet it in the slightest you are done. The profiles that begin, "I am new to town and looking to meet new people to hang out with" is total, disengenuous fodder. See, some woman, not all, are concerned with how they will appear dating you in the eyes of society and their friends. A high percentage of these type of women seem to be on match. I assume this is also true of some of the males on match, too. Also, I think most people on match.com are only seeing who they can attract and are not serious about meeting anyone-whether on a platonic or romantic level.

Third, if you are a average male, be prepared to have your self-esteem and confidence kicked to the curb. My advice, do not let it get to you. You are set up for failure. Take it easy and just look at match as just another avenue to meet women-not, the only. If all else fails, keep a case of Miler High-Life premium beer nearby.

Fourth, I agree that match should let you know who is an actual subscriber who can be emailed. Also, those fake winks are annoying.

Fifth, the quality of people on match.com leaves a lot to be desired. I am not against a thirty-something mother of 3 kids being on match, but it makes we wonder about her priorities. Also, there are not a lot of people with college or advance degrees on match. Finally, I find those women that list the income level of thier potential match as $100,000 and above, laughable.

I cannot blame the site; like one reviewer said, it's the people that ruin this site. Also, I cannot tell you guys/girls not to use the site. It may work for you; however, be cognizant of its limitations.

In summary, ladies and gentlemen, you are better off meeting someone the old fashioned way.

I would rate zero stars. I've been a member for nearly 16 months and met only 3 women. They were nice and seemed to be what they had represented in their profiles, but no sparks flew and there were no second meetings. The counter for the number of people who have viewed my profile is now over 1,300. I'll estimate I've sent out 750 emails, probably more, all of them customized. In return, I've received maybe 20 or 30 of the automated "thanks but no thanks" replies, and received perhaps 15 or 20 actual replies, all of which ultimately fizzled out for one reason or another. I'm a professional person, 46, and fit ~ perhaps not Cary Grant, but hardly Ernest Borgnine. I've been on the receiving end of a few scam attempts, but typically these scammers have such a terrible command of the English language and do such a terrible job of imitating women that they are easy to spot and block out. So, the whole thing is puzzling and frustrating. Even worse, it can consume an enormous amount time. After 16 months, I feel comfortable saying that the probability (for me) of finding a significant other through Match.com is very, very small. It may be analogous to the lottery, where the odds are worse than a million to one, but you can't win if you don't play. So, I think success is highly improbable/remotely possible. The cost ($16.99 per mo. for 6 months) doesn't quite reach my pain threshold, so I'll keep at it for a while. Will it work for you? I have no idea.

Warning to all: Did you know that many of the profiles and photos
that you see when you search match.com, are useless?
By "useless" I mean that match.com accepts listings by people free of charge, and those listings are published, so that the regular match.
com members can e-mail them.
However, those free listers are not able to e-mail anyone, nor is it
possible for a regular, i.e. paid up, match.co member to e-mail them.
Yes, you see a menu which tells you that you can e-mail such a
person. But will this person ever see your e-mail? NO.
So, match.com fools their regular members into thinking that there
are all these people they can write to.
The truth is that only a small number of listers can receive, i.e. see,
your e-mail.
If that isn't a fraudulent practice by match.com, I wonder what it is.

The California attorney-general should get themselves involved in this,
because it is fraud and it amounts to theft by match.com. Mary.

I only chose 1 star as there was not a -0- star to choose. I live in Virginia and 95% of the people they sent were in UK, Alaska, HI, CA and FL. Not with the 50 miles I requested. I emailed and called match and it only got worse with the selections. I feel very ripped off and frustrated by trying to deal with long phone calls and form letters with match. NEVER AGAIN!! I asked to be removed and that did not even happen so I obliterated my profile to try to get rid of match, that didn't even work. They offered me more days "free" HA! I said no and no more and they are still sending me people thousands of miles away. What an unpleasant waste of time and money!!!!!

In short: I was a member for one month (in early 2010), and made several rather promising connection that developed into ongoing correspondences; then, suddenly, every single one of the profiles that I was in touch with completely DISAPPEARED! No warning, no explanation, no NOTHING. 
Of course, I sought help from the site, and after much exasperating and false excuses concerning the reasons why this had happened (e.g. they originally suggested that all of my contacts had simultaneously decided to suspend their profiles), they eventually admitted that they had in effect "sold" these missing profiles to another on-line dating site (the euphemism they used was "migration of members [...] to another site"); so the upshot is that these profiles were now no longer available to me through Match.com.

 Needless to say, I was ASTOUNDED by this HEARTLESS GREED!

"Match".com turned into "SNATCH".com. They took my money, made FALSE PROMISES, snatched my new friends away, and now I'm left with NOTHING after spending dozens of hours searching for, connecting with, and writing countless e-mails to these now utterly LOST PROFILES. (Oh, they did offer me 7 free days of extended membership. Wow! What generous compensation for this incredible disappointment and unsympathetic handling of their customers!)

My recommendation: AVOID AT ALL COST! There are plenty of other sites that offer far better service--many of them free of charge. Spend your valuable time and money elsewhere!

BEWARE!!! ZERO STARS!!!-FELLOW MEMBERS-THERE IS A WHOLE NIGERIAN CONSPIRACY GOING ON WITH MATCH.COM.NIGERIANS IN AFRICA STEALING IDENTITIES OF PEOPLES PICTURES AND CREATE LOVE STORIES/ LIVES WITH YOU AND THEN 1-2 MONTHS LATER SOMETHING MASSIVE/DRASTIC GOES WRONG- THEN THEY DEMAND MONEY!!!!DO NOT GIVE ANY MONEY.SCAM---SCAM--SCAM--MATCH.COM SHOULD BE ASHAMED OF THEMSELVES. THEY SHOULD SCREEN THEIR MEMBERS TRUE IDENTITIES INSTEAD THEY DON'T-THEY CLAIM TO HAVE A DEPT-THAT WATCHES THESE NIGERIANS-USING THEIR (302) AREA CODES,BUT MATCH.COM HAS NO PROBLEM TAKING THEIR CHARGE CARD NUMBERS AND SIGNING THEM UP. AS MEMBERS.SHAME ON YOU-MATCH.COM!!!!! I WAS TARGETED AND MANY MEN WHOM WROTE TO ME WERE ALL IMPOSTERS(NIGERIANS)THEY JUST WANT YOUR MONEY.THE PICURES OF THE MEN WERE ALSO TARGETED. THEY WERE ALL FAKES!!!WE ALL GOT SCAMMED.I AS WELL AS THE GENTLEMAN I FIGURED OUT WHO WAS THE IMPOSTER,ARE REPORTING MATCH.COM TO THE FEDERAL GOVERNMENT.DO NOT SIGN UP WITH MATCH .COM---IT IS A MONEY MAKING BUSINESS AND A BIG NIGERIAN SCAM...IN THE END ...THEY WIN !!AND YOU LOSE ,BECAUSE YOU GET HURT!!!

I think the site is actually pretty good and easy to navigate, much better than eharmony.

I also see it a little differently then most on here, because in my view its the same ole problems, and lack of willingness to change between the sexes. Men and women often have different needs. The men always want slim, attractive, young women no matter what they look like or how old. Sex is always at the top of their list, no matter what walk of life they come from. Women in their 30's early 40's who don't have children know they are running out of time, and run into men who won't commit or aren't sure about having children, or already have kids... however....the men are sure they want sex, lol. So for you men, I can't tell you how many male friends I've had who are fathers and are paying their dates child support, and many have advance degrees or already had families with their former spouse. If you don't believe me ask a family court lawyer and he will inform you this is epidemic in this country. Myself I don't blame these women, because the men are using them for sex so they rheaped what they sowed, BUT I'll never understand why so many men who claim to not want children fail to use protection....Hello..that is YOUR responsibility, or go get yourself fixed. Again I don't blame the women because of biology can't wait because they will miss their chance to have a family. So in that age group its the same old thing, and men in their late 40's to 50 something also want the young women, which is fine too. But they need to understand, they will be paying and young women want to be taken care of, and if they have to have sex with a old guy...those are the rewards they expect, and can't say I blame them. Another thing, the younger women often have financial problems (or no finances), and you are their ticket.. so to speak. So just as the men don't come out and say how they want to have countless sex with young attractive women, the women don't come out and say what their true motives are...$$, and security.

So men there are reasons women put like to "cuddle" are "affectionate".... and love to TRAVEL, LOL. Because A - they do that because they know that will attract ALL men to the profile, because they believe it means SEX, and B - they expect you to take them on trips if you want A! And they are letting you know where they like to go! I also love the men who are nearly 50 that want 30-45....and don't even go up to their age, lol, seriously what is that about!? Major denial with older men, and if they would date close to their age they would have better success in finding a mate.
And for the women who put they expect their date to make 100k-150k and up, I laugh my head off. I mean how stupid is that, most women are smart enough to be coy in that department, and how stupid is it for men to list their incomes anyways.

So no I don't blame Match whatsoever, its the sexes and the differences between them and its the same whether you are online, or meet people elsewhere. Yes most people are looking for a partner, but everyone has expectations whether they realize it or not. Men always wonder why after marriage the sex tapered off a bit or a lot,...I'll tell you why; because women know.. to keep a man or to get a man they have to give a lot of sex and oral. And for most women sex is not all that important compared to the kids, finances ect. so the women once married don't have to pretend like they did in the "dating" game. Even men once they feel they have their mate, don't bestow all the courting rituals so its with both sexes imo. Overall men need to somehow realize sex is just part of a relationship, and there are many other aspects of a relationship that are much more important. Women need to be more independent, and stop looking for a man to take care of them or solve their financial problems.....otherwise they continue to go through partners.

My other observation is men and women who have kids from a former relationship and who put them above their partner and still keep the ex in the picture. That is crazy, you have to put your significant other first and put your ex's in the past. If you have kids together do not allow your ex around your family or to attend functions, and do separate birthdays (kids) ect. and in general put your new love interest first. Otherwise, you are practicing self defeating behavior, and really do you want to screw up your future because/over an ex?? Believe me, the second marriages that work do this and instead of the ex as a co-parent, they have their new spouse co-parent. So for Godsake 86 your ex, or your new spouse will 86 you.
Also, if your dating don't force your kids on your date, and don't introduce them UNLESS its very serious - that is only fair to your partner and to your kids, and remember its ok if your kids aren't crazy about your new love and vise vera. You may not like your kids spouse someday, but as long as everyone is polite that is what matters. So be realistic, you can't expect your new spouse to love them like you do, won't happen and myself I've seen where the step and the kids get along great and then down the road they don't. Either way, spend your own time with the kids, and separate time with your partner, but if you want to find a live time mate - put that person first.
Also, please people don't put your kids in your profile pictures, how tacky; don't include those at all. No one wants to see your kids, brother, your ex ect. Only use pictures of yourself if you want to make a good impression.

Otherwise Match does pretty good, they merely deliver the goods and the goods are the same everywhere. If you want success you have to be realistic about your age and yourself, and be willing to compromise and eventually put that person first if you want someone for the long haul. To those of you who are struggling, some of the above may pertain to you so hopefully this has helped, good luck to all.

I came on this site to see whether my views of Match were common or unusual and, sad to say, it seems to be the former. If I could rate it lower than 1 star I would, it is a complete scam.

Like many here, my suspicions were first raised when I noted how few replies I was receiving to winks or emails. I'm the first to admit that I am no Pierce Brosnan, but even in real life I get a better response than this, and the whole reason for joining Match was to meet more women and, hopefuly, a partner.

After 5 months I was emailed by someone I had tried to contact a couple of months earlier, yet their email didn't even acknowledge my previous message, which I thought was a little strange, if not downright rude. A few email conversations later I discovered that this woman had only re-subscribed to Match a few days before she contacted me - and that is when the penny dropped: she had put her profile on the site about a year previously, signed up for a month subscription, which she had let lapse due to lack of responses and then decided to give it another chance almost a year later! My previous email had been sent while her subscription had lapsed and, because she still occasionally logged into Match, it looked like her profile was "active".

Match make a big thing about their huge membership, currently quoting about 8% of the entire UK population! (I suspect that is worldwide membership*, but Match are just as coy about that as they are about their definition of membership.) It seems that Match count anyone with a valid profile as a member, whether they have a fully subscribed account or not. Of course, all of these "members" with expired subscriptions as well as those who never even took out a subscription can't read or reply to any wink or email that you send. Even if they log into Match every day, they are blissfully unaware (as was the woman who eventually emailed me) that you have even tried to contact them!

To make matters worse, Match have recently changed their site considerably - at least here in Europe - to bring it into line with all of the net dating sites owned by Meetic, who bought the European part of Match in June last year. In doing so, they have eliminated many of the criteria previously available in searches for potential dates - including, but not limited to, distance.

Now, I am not saying that distance dating doesn't occasionally work, but my own experience is that it is hard enough to keep an established relationship going over a long term separation that the chances of starting a meaningful relationship at distance is next to negligible. Real life isn't like the movies - Sleepless in Seatle is a fantasy!

So now, a search thows up 50x as many "hits" but only 1 in 100 are actually local, or within reasonable travelling distance to date each other. Maybe it works in a large metropolitan conurbation, but I decided some time ago to trade that daily rat race for a more rural life. However the time spent sifting through all of those search "hits" to find the suitable ones, and probably missing most of them, is now ridiculous. How many of us signed up to Match because we don't have the time to spend in "conventional" dating venues?

Match have been extremely cavalier with the time - that irreplacable commodity - of their paying customers. In my opinion there recent behaviour has been too cavalier so I have cancelled my subscription so that it is not automatically debited from my account when the current subscription expires. (For those who hadn't noticed that little ploy - read the fine print in the "My Account" section!) I did ask for a complete refund of my current subscription since they are no longer providing the service that I paid for, but that has met with no reponse from Match, so I am debating whether to initiate proceedings in the Small Claims Court against them, to recover my money.

*IAC financial results for Q2 2009 (available from
http://iac.mediaroom.com/index.php?s=43&item=1700 )
shows that Match only have a total of 1,156,000 paid up subscribers - well short of the 5 million "members" they claim (whether in the UK as they imply or worldwide as I suspect). In the whole of Europe they had 291,000 paid up subscribers when they sold the business to Meetic.

Put in context, 4 out of every 5 contact attempts made by genuine Match subscribers go straight into the ethereal trash can at the end of the Internet. Is it any wonder that people complain about the lack of success with Match?

My advice to anyone genuinely looking for a partner is just to stay away from these scammers.