Reviews of Match.com

Match.com is about as infuriating and frustrating as any other online dating site, but it's not necessarily the fault of the site itself. It's otherwise well organized and fairly easy to navigate (it also offers a host of extras for a few extra bucks a month that aren't really worth it, in my opinion), but the trouble is simply this: it's the people that are on here that really make you disillusioned to the whole online dating thing. I am a member of match.com currently (as I have been in the past with both this site and eharmony.com) and it's the same problem now as it was a few years ago - most people on this site aren't that serious about meeting anyone. Sure, everyone talks a great game, but it's mostly a crapshoot. In my experience, about 85% of your emails, winks or whatever will go unanswered (winks are particularly useless because it says to that person: "hey, I think I like you, but I'm not going to bother writing an email because I'm really unwilling to invest that kind of time.") Occassionally, you do get a response and it gets you excited, but even those can end just as suddenly as they started. If you're particularly lucky, you'll even meet a few of your connections and, from there, it's up to you if you're willing to pursue it, but never ever go into it thinking it's going to be fireworks and flowers (because it often isn't - what people claim to be online can differ greatly from what they actually are.)

Here's the basic reason why online dating has such a low success rate: people join the site because of its relative anonymity and it's safe and fun to email people from home (or work, school or wherever you happen to be). However, once you reach the point that it won't be anonymous for long, most people tend to jump ship (which is why your emails are suddenly unanswered.) Believe me, emails will only let you get to know a person so far - sooner or later, you have to actually converse with them in person or over the phone. This is the point where most connections fall apart because now you find out if your connection is really serious about meeting someone or if it's just a lot of talk. Here's a surprise: both men AND women are guilty of this on this site. Most women feel as though the men on here are just looking for one night stands, most men feel as though the women on here are just teasing - the fact of the matter is, they're both right.

In my experience on this site, most profiles read about the same (some are almost oddly identical to each other... fellas, have you ever heard more women claim they're "down to earth", "easy going", "independent but love to cuddle" and so on and so forth? Now, maybe this is true of that particular person, but when every woman says it... as a male, you start to think twice.) Also, every woman loves to travel (I've heard tell from women who joined this site that match.com really pushes the issue when they fill out their profile, but alas, I have no idea if this is 100% true. If it is true, then I suppose match.com is trying to subtly intimate to the males out there that this woman would love to travel over 100 miles to meet you.) If I happen to find a well-written profile or someone who just strikes my fancy, I'll email them. I try to keep it short, funny, original and hopefully interesting enough for them to write back, but ultimately, it's just blind luck if they email back or not. Usually, a few emails will go back and forth and, if they don't just disappear, a date will be set up. Again, in my experience, these dates are completely unpredictable. I went on one with a woman who I had been emailing back and forth with for a week or two - we got together and spent a few hours just talking, eating dinner and chit-chatting. Things went pretty well (or so I thought) and I walked her back to her car. She gave me not one, but two, kisses and when I went to give her my number, she gave me hers instead. Seemed like a successful date, right? Well, one unanswered phone call and two unanswered emails later confirmed that all was not as I thought and that was the end of that. So, why spend several hours with me if there's no chemistry, why kiss me if everything's horrible and why give me your number if you're not planning on ever talking to me again (thankfully, it wasn't a rejection hotline number...)? This experience, of course, confused me and I still don't have any answers. The best I can figure is that maybe I was only one of many matches she had and perhaps she found that certain magic with someone else and maybe I was just a back-up plan. Your guess is as good as mine.

In the end, here's the breakdown: people are not their online profiles, most people aren't serious about meeting other people and most people change their minds as often as they change clothes. The internet just makes it easier to do all this on a schedule that's convenient for you. Still, there's that 1% out there who do have a positive experience and, honestly, my hat is off to you. I don't know how the hell you did it. Hopefully, one day, I will join you...

Two years ago today, I met the love of my life from match.com.
If you would have told me I would have even looked at a computer match dateing service, let alone found a man to marry on it a few years ago, I would have told you, "You Are Crazy"
After 3 years of divorce, even thought I worked in a public place with professional business men, I could not find anyone I wanted to spend more than a few dates with. It was very rare it even want to see them a second time.
When my husband contacted me on match.com, I was just about over the whole dateing scene. No one looked like their pictures I thought, and/or the cheministry just was not there. When he emailed me, I told him I did not like to email; I rather skip through the chase and talk on the phone. When he called me we talked for a while and I said , let just meet and get it over with.
He agreed to me me on my side of town, which was a good start. When he got to the restaurant, I had been there a few minutes and was talking to my girlfriend on the phone. When he came walking through the doors, the first thing I thought was; finally someone looks like his pictures. He was tall, dark and handsome. We sat and talked for a couple hours, the snow was falling and stacking up, but neither one of us wanted to leave. At the end of the evening, he walked me to my car and just said goodnight and asked me if he could call me again. I said, I would like that. Two days later, he called and asked if I would like to go to a movie. I immediatly said yes. I met him at the movie, we went out to eat afterwards, and have never been with anyone else since then. It was Love on the second date.
Six months later we got married, and he is the love of my life. I think he is the male model of me and he thinks the same.

I'll give Match 2 stars for having a nice set up. I've been on there many times over the last 10 years. The site has gotten better, but meeting someone hasn't.
I tried their extra services, like seeing if the woman has read your message. I would say 80% of the time, the message was never looked at. Sometimes I would go back and see if the even woman looked at my profile, most of the time they didn't. Makes you wonder if the ad was even real.
I've had a few date over the years, all of them nice, just no connection.
I went out with one woman I met on Match and asked her why so many women on there talk about travel. She said Match.com pushes the women to talk about it. I told her the constant traveling comments put men off. I'm not a travel agent, just a guy looking to meet somone to do things locally for now.

So far match.com's customer care dept. gets no stars and one finger (guess which one) from me. They have my money so screw me. I think I have the same situation going on that I read about in Cherie from Wisconsin's review. My problem began on Thursday evening it is now Saturday afternoon and I have yet to hear from them. I have been doing some research and have found this information. Match.com technical support-800-926-2824, they are only available M-F from 8-8 cst because problems NEVER happen on wkends. I have contacted all of the folks below with no response yet. I didn't call Mr. Lucente's cell phone. Just couldn't make myself do it. If you are having problems I encourage you to contact them also.
Dean Lucente
Vice President, Sales
555 West 18th Street
New York, NY 10011
212-404-1001

Communications Office
212.314.7251
communications@iac.com

Investor Relations
212.314.7400
ir@iac.com

Technical Support
212.314.7300
webmaster@iac.com

Operations
212.314.7300
operations@iac.com

Government Affairs
1120 G Street NW, Suite 410
Washington, DC 20005
202.449.4740
govaffairs@iac.com

IAC International Headquarters
The Communications Building
48 Leicester Square, 5th Floor
London, WC2H 7LT
+44.(0).20.3002.7190
international@iac.com

I would give match.com a less than zero rating. Have been signed up less than 30 days. So far, someone changed my user name. I had to then recreate my profile. I was unable to log back in for a few days, and now I have more technical issues. When I log in they want me to subscribe... hmm. Already a member. I've gotten emails from customer care that tell me they will address the issue within 24 hours and that isnt happening either.

I beleive Match.com to be no different than any other dating site online even the ones that say they specialize in committed relationshps. The Internet has made it easier for a world of non-committment, free lifestyles and the ones who would like serious relationships have to try that much harder. All the profiles say the same, look the same men and female alike. Thier are many nice people on the sites but not many looking for relationships just dates and a good time and on to the next. However, they all have the same thing on thier profile as if it is a requirement saying that they are looking for one. They all lie about income, how tall, how much they weigh. Even some of the pictures are phony or old. What happens when you meet and we are different. It is an online bar seen from the 70's and 80's with free sex involved under the guise of wanting a relationship... while match makes the money and everyone plays the game. It is unfortunate for those who are really looking for a relationship and think they will find one and those who do are the luck few..

thank you

If it weren't for Match.com I would not have met the most amazing man for me.. I used to be the girl that was compeletely discusted by these online dating sites. I am a single mom though and was sick of meeting guys in bars and at clubs.. im not really into that scene anymore.. Now im not gonna lie there were a lot of Players.. Guys just wanting some booty and the creeper stalker guys that feel in love with you the moment they saw u lol CREEEEPY!! I was about to give up on match only after meeting 3 guys. But for some reason i looked one last time and thank god i did. My fiance now had "winked" at me and the moment i saw his face I knew something was different about this one... He did seem too good to be true though.... we decided to meet after a few weeks of talking and its been great ever since. Now we are getting married in June!! This website may not be for everybody and may not be where everyone will meet their one and only.. but it sure did work for me!!!!

A GENTLEMAN'S MATCH.COM AD
Hi! Thanks for visiting my profile. I'm a very nice and polite gentleman who is sincerely searching and I have many fine qualities to offer I'm sure a nice girl would be looking for and very happy about:) I have excellent character and I take pride in my word which has always been good and a person can rely on and I'm helpful and happy to be there when needed. I'm responsible, respectable and I've always been fair in all matters and dealings with others. I want to be a true friend and enjoy each others company during good times and be comforting and supportive during difficult times. I'm very understanding, patient and believe in being good for each other, bringing out the best in each other and working together with each others best interest in mind. I have traditional values and I have lots of real love to offer and I'd love to have a nice girl in my life to love, cherish and always treat her the best:)

I'd love to have a girl to open the door for, be reliable and dependable for, make her feel comfortable, safe, happy, secure, cheer her up when she's had a rough day, take care of her when she's not feeling well and I'd be happy to make sure she always feels loved, wanted and cared about in a real relationship that works great and will last.

I'd love to email, instant message, write letters, talk on the phone and if all goes well I'd love to have a nice girl visit who would be as happy as I would be to see how well we can treat each other and make each other happy. When she visits I'll treat her to all the delicious Chinese and Mexican food we can stuff ourselves with and have a great time! If she has a child that's great! What's better than playing ball in the yard, cartoons and coloring books:) An older son? I'll teach him Thrash and Burn Heavy Metal Guitar. Just kidding! She can bring her parents:) They'll love me!

I'm friendly, fun and have a very pleasant personality and people say I'm very nice! I am clean thinking, clean talking, never used illegal drugs and never even had a parking ticket (lucky me!) and I cook and do windows! The perfect man!:) I don't have children but I would be happy to accept and love a woman's child as my very own. I'm hoping for a true relationship that may lead to ahring a Home Sweet Home and a loving marriage. (Oops! is the dreaded 'M' word allowed on here? lol;)

I read a list of 40 sad but common problems women have with men and a girl wouldn't have even 1 of them with me. I've known of 54 couples through work and not one man treated a girl as well as I would. What could be better?
If I had a girlfriend I'd be a man she would be proud of and I wouldn't be a bad influence and wouldn't expose her to ungentlemanly conversation, mistreatment in any form, abandonment, arguments, name calling, fault-finding or be deceptive or unfaithful. I don't approve of illegal drugs and would never suggest such an unfortunate activity... she wouldn't be used in any manner unbecoming to a woman... since I don't drink there wouldn't be any problems related to alcohol and I don't engage in foul language, suggestive comments, bars or parties and I'm not like men who fool a girl to believe what he says to keep her.

What would make me very happy is to have a polite, feminine girl to love, care about and treat very special. My heart is set on being the best man she could ever find and devoted to treating her the best she could be treated and my happiness would be making her happy. I'm in this for all the right reasons so her Education, Occupation, Income or Hobbies do NOT matter if she's the right kind of girl who would bring lots of real love and happiness into my life just as I want to bring into her life:) I'm willing to eventually relocate to share a great future and a few hour drive is okay with me. After all... aren't you worth it? Of course! And me too!:)

KEY WORDS ABOUT HIM
Bright Caring Compassionate Courteous Dependable Devoted Faithful Friendly Fun Helpful Intelligent Kind Loving Mannerly Normal Polite Reliable Respectful Sincere

WHO WAS HE?
A Single, Available, Nice Looking, Fit, White Male with a nice photograph who was a paying subscriber of Match.com for 8 YEARS and NEVER had a sincere response and NEVER met a woman in person.
WHAT WAS HE LOOKING FOR?
He had a 20 year age range and a 300 mile (or more) distance was ok. He just wanted to meet a genuinely nice hopefully attractive girl who was willing to eventually visit to meet in person to get to know each other and see how it went.

THE RESULTS?
GENTLEMEN! DO NOT JOIN MATCH.COM! The above is just 1 variation of an ad that I placed and if YOU are any of the above the women on Match.com will rip you to pieces with the most Rude, Sarcastic, Hateful emails! I wish you could read emails even from so-called 'Christians' on Match who wrote emails: "I'm a Christian but..." and then would Scold, Ridicule and Belittle a man for being a polite gentleman with fine qualities who would treat a woman well and for placing that type of ad. Women on Match.com HATE gentlemen!

Where were the NICE LADIES on Match? Match.com MUST BE BLOCKING EMAILS? The emails sent to a gentleman on Match.com will ruin your health, happiness and break your spirit. If you're a gentleman in any way, shape or form as the ad describes...
GENTLEMEN! DO NOT JOIN MATCH.COM! I was 'Viewed' 60,000 times! Not 1 woman on Match.com wants or will have ANY sincere interest in the kind of man you read about! OR Match.com sends hatemail to decent men and blocks the 'Real' emails from nice ladies? Match then banned me after I put in my ad how many Years Views etc I had without a sincere email and mentioned in my ad "Hmmm... am I not receiving my real emails?" Someone please investigate and STOP Match.com!
DO NOT JOIN MATCH.COM IF YOU'RE A GENTLEMAN!
I'm trying POF with no photo. No views. No emails. Thank Goodness!

I just read Jeff from Florida's review.....well written. However, my experience is very different. I took the initiative and winked and emailed to pictures/profiles that i thought may be a possibility....the response rate has been approx 1%. I am fairly attractive and my profile is well written. I have gone on four encounters consisting of three lunches and one Starbuck meeting. The first person I met for lunch was pleasant enough, however, no spark...no laughter, nothing....I thanked him for the lunch that lasted too long and let him know that I could only see friendship between us...he wanted more and offered to cook dinner at his house for our next meeting...when I let him know that I was not interested he threw a temper tantrum. The second lunch date had a toupe and was shorter than me...He was nice, however, again no personality connection. The third lunch date was short lived since he was quick to determine that we were not a good match. We quickly and politely said nice meeting you. The fourth was the nicest, however, again not the right match and lives in a different state.

I joined in Nov/09 and prepaid for six months. Thus far I am very disappointed with the experience. I am aware that the odds are not in the favor of the members. The house, Match.com, is more interested in having repeat members. I sometimes wonder if the e mails and winks sent go into a Match.com black whole. Many reviewers suspect that all is not up and up with the online dating services. I am keeping a bit of an open mind, will complete my six months and will not sign up again.....I will review again after my membership expires.

First off, I want to say to the lady that just stated that if you do not look good in your picture, then she will just delete you without looking at the profile. Gosh, she must really be just beautiful with no flaws. Good for her, but that is not far. Some may not look as great as she wants but they may have a great deal to offer in other ways. I feel that beauty when found inside really looks wonderful when it is on the outside. Hey, when the lights go out, who knows what you look like. Just be glad you live in a world with lights. Now I did not find what I was looking for on this cite but I did learn a great deal about myself and others. I guess you get what you pay for if you really want to. I wish all ladies luck in finding that special person, but I do hope that because this is a place where you put much of yourself right out there for all to see. Whether you are truthful or just a scam artist, it doesnt hurt to leave the guys with what ever dignity that they haved. You would not want someone to just stomp all over your heart. Hey I thought this was about finding something special not just killing the feelings. Have a great day.