Reviews of eHarmony

I've tried eharmony a few times, and I'll give it two stars. I would give it one star, but I do kind of like the way it's set up, so I'll give it an extra star. I like that it's not set up like Match or Yahoo where you're basically on display like cars on a sales lot. For the most part, I think it's a bunch of hype. Reading through some of these other reviews has made me feel a little better. It's good to know that I'm in good company with my experiences with this. In fact, I'll give a little bit of a warning: Eharmony sometimes isn't very good for your self-esteem. The first time I used it, it made me feel like a total troll for a while. I eventually got over it, but still.

Now, some of the other reviewers have made remarks along the lines of "I'm not shallow, and I hate shallow people as much as the next person, but I kept getting matched with very unattractive people." Why don't you just come out and admit that you want an attractive person as your significant other? It's a lot more respectable to say that than to try to tiptoe around it with these "I'm not shallow, but . . . " lines.

Some people do have success with the site, but the success stories seem to be few and far between. You're probably better off meeting people in real life. Maybe take a class, do some volunteer work, join a club, or something like that.

Another issue I have with Eharmony (and most other dating sites as well) is that the profiles really don't give you much of a chance to convey much about yourself. Log in to your eharmony account and you should see what I mean. You really don't know much about most of your matches after reading their profiles, do you?

I was an eharmony member a few years ago, and now I'm back. I like the setup. I like that's it's not like some of the other sites where everyone is on display like canned goods at the supermarket. However, I am a little curious about exactly how the whole matching system works. I have been matched with women who I had very little in common with and who were very different from me in terms of personality. I'm not anti-social, not at all. But I'm an introvert, and I tend to be a little quiet and stand-offish. The last time I was on eharmony, I was matched with a girl who could literally talk non-stop for a half hour. During our coffee date, I think I got maybe three or four sentences into the conversation due to her talkativeness. Don't get me wrong, she was a nice girl. But I think someone like that should probably be with a guy who is a little more extroverted than I am.

One interesting thing I noticed was that I tended to get matched with a lot of law students. I can't tell you how many times I got a new match only to read her profile and find out that she was in law school. Maybe if I had gone to law school myself, I would have found the love of my life.

Also, I think eharmony needs to tweak their matching system. In my settings, I specifically said that I only wanted to be matched with girls within thirty miles of my home. I live in a metropolitan area, so this isn't unreasonable. However, I got matched with girls who were in Maryland, Illinois, and Kentucky. Don't get me wrong. I'm sure they are nice ladies, but if I'm in Ohio, and they're in those other states, then it's not going to happen. I have a freshly started career here, and I'm not interested in picking up and moving away for someone. Plus, since I specified that I didn't want any matches more than thirty miles away from me, then I shouldn't be getting matches from far away places. Eharmony, you need to address this.

All in all, eharmony isn't too much of a disappointment. I think some of the people are are angry because they got their hopes up too high. Even though they say it's different, EH isn't that much different from dating IRL. You still have to deal with rejection, flaky people, shallow people, etc. Online dating isn't going to allow you to literally purchase a compatible SO, even though it's easy to think that if you're new to online dating sites. Also, you're probably going to have to go through a few, if not several, matches before you find "the one."

Beware! My Son met and married a woman from e Harmony, 3 months later she talked him into marrying her. She was nothing like he thought she was. As soon as she moved in, it turned into a nightmare. She was from Salem and claimed (and still does) to be a Christian. She tricked my son into having a child with her and now is divorcing him and trying to take his house retirement and more. They have not even been married 2 years and were separated after six months. My son had alot before she came along with her 2 kids from 2 different Dads. PLEASE BE CAREFUL! SHE WILL BE ON THE PROWL AGAIN!

Next month I will have been on eHarmony for five years. I am still single. There has only been one significant relationship generated by eHarmony. That individual was a "con artist" who "marked" me early in our relationship as someone who could be skillfully manipulated out of all my savings and my property. He is still suing me at every opportunity.

I have been on dates with other individuals matched by eHarmony. I do not understand the matching criteria, but these men are nothing like me. They are very nice (and I hope they all find the woman of their dreams) but they are not even close to being right for me.

I hope eHarmony takes a look at their matching system and finds some way to connect people who are compatable.

Much of the dating in middle age deals with some common sense. Men, don't take it personally. Many women joining Eharmony probably have difficulty in maintaining a relationship or there is a red flag in their package. Those women in their late 30+ has showed disinterest to others before me. The woman's pattern has consistency. Through my 3 months, I stated that I was interested in physically athletic women. For whatever reason(s) I was canned by most of the matches. The few that showed interest, they weren't athletic. My recreation has a high emphasize on participating in sports. I sum up my mental character as a Dr. Laura S. thinker.

I would not give even 1 star for this service. I am 33 y.o. beautiful women and I did not expect such a quiet dating time. I've been using this service for almost one month and I am telling you, it is a waste of time. I paid for 3 month and eH refused to give me refund when I asked my money back. I am very much disappointed in this very well advertised dating website. Please stay away from such a fraud.

My complaint is their terrible customer servicel and nasty obtuse way of dealing with their customers. As far as I could tell the matches they sent me were fine (although most were out of town) in the right age group, fit, with similar education levels (I have a graduate degree). However, I cannot validate this because before I could meet any guys that showed interest they cut my account off without saying why (they also kept my 6 month payment). After waiting on hold for almost an hour I got a customer service rep that coyly told me she would have to "talk to the president" she would not tell me what was wrong or give me any other information. I then sent them a email telling them to refund my money or tell me what the problem was. Another coy e-mail hinting that I was not divorced and trying to pull a fast one. I told them I had been divorced for a number of years and provided them with more information (name of my ex). Well not to go on too long but they sent me another message that said sorry but we cannot verify that you are divorced and they still kept my money! Bottom line, the county records department made a typo in the public records and misspelled my name(which i found out by providing them with the name of my ex); this error was then fixed. I sent them this information along with the case number and have not heard from them since. I feel bad for the guys I was communicating with (because they might think I was blowing them off) and wonder if this is the explanation for some of the lack of communication in some cases-also why folk have been dropped without explanation who might not be as persistant at trying to get and answer.
Whileit great that they seem to check up on stuff this could have all been resolved quickly and pleasantly if they had been clear what the problem was from the first and given me a chance to check it out. Now it is clear to me that they really don't care, they just want your charge card and any excuse to keep your money.

I'm sorry but some people need to do their homework. Read the terms and condintions. Give credit where credit is due and be smart people. You can claim all you want but you need to seriously read you terms and condintion, its printable!

This company defrauds consumers by misrepresenting "matches" (which are also anything but matches), by pretending they're available matches when they're really not even subscribing members. (They may have subscribed for a free weekend deal months ago). In my experience I was suspended, (because I changed my associated credit card number and forgot to tell them). After that I got lots of e-mails in my in-box telling me matches "really wanted to communicate with me." I was naive enough to renew. Since then I have received a maximum of 2 matches per week, all of whom have been more like my worst nightmare, rather than a match.

Although I fit and well educated, and well traveled, my matches have generally been people living outside the area I chose in my profile, and worse , people who are welders, etc. and who have never been outside of their home state! , They were also either fat or super shallow. I am now concerned that my credit card will be billed again when this loser subscription runs out (in a month). I have tried to call the "customer service" number only to be told that there we "long wait times"...I can only imagine. I have not been able to find a valide email through which I can communicate with this fraudulent criminal organization.

I have written to the Attorney General's office and even contacted my state senator to get some kind of investigation going on Neil Warren and his outfit.

I've worked with a colleague who is going back to school in psychology. Her study involves internet dating services. She was impressed by e-harmony's mission statement at first, but after talking to me, she is working on litigation aimed at stopping these criminals from robbing any more people.

I've also e-mailed "date-line, etc" to see if they can expose this criminal fraud..pretending matches when in fact they're not. This is FRAUD!

Right now I'm trying to get through to their "customer service" line to make sure my credit card is not billed again ...EVEN THOUGH THEY ASSURED ME IT WOULDN'T BE?! Of course, I can't get through. (If you need to give your credit card # to a rep, you can get through right away!

I'd be up for providing info for a class action 'Fraud" suit. If up for it, please respond to blog.

This was a total waste of time and money. The only reason I give eHarmony even 1 star is that I collected enough horror stories to write a book!

Unless you're hooked up to a lie detector, the lengthy questionnaire means nothing. Going through the entire "getting to know you" process gives one a false sense of security. By the time you're able to talk on the phone you're ready to hop on a plane to Vegas.

My 203 matches lived as far away as Guam, although I specified that I wanted to meet someone within a couple of hundred miles from my home. A little distance can be exciting, but Guam??

The ones I did meet were either: shorter than advertised, alcoholics, had posted very old photos, were actually attracted to younger women and just trying me out, or were on various heart and blood pressure medications.

With eHarmony it's all about the marketing. Even a mediocre product will do well with good marketing. However, I think any free dating service can yield the same results.